Truthful Tuesday - Adoption
Yesterday I touched on the fact that I was given life! How awesome is that? I think it is pretty cool.
And I am sure those who know me think the same thing! Well they better!
Today I want to be Honest with you all and answer a question I have gotten most of my life when people find out that I am an adoptee. They ask "have you ever wanted to find your birthmother?"
Is she still alive? If married did she tell her spouse? If she has children has she told them?
Was she ever counseled after the adoption? Does she want to be found?
I put myself in her shoes and ask how would I feel after 35 years if this person found me and claimed to be my biological child? Not sure how I would respond.
One more question I have gotten after I answer the first would be "aren't you curious to find out about them?"
SURE! Now that I have children and I am not getting any younger, I am very curious about how they look their health history, interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. I have the basic facts height, weight etc, but how cool would it be to see a photo? Read about what they have done since they were 17 years old etc. It would be great to know it all without knowing or have to get to know the person on a personal level.
The last major question I get is "So you have two sets of parents?"
NO WAY! I have my mom and dad who adopted me and raised me, there is NO other set of parents, they are my parents, and they gave me values, morals, goals, boundaries and most important LOVE! My mom and dad are just that MY PARENTS! I would never think of my biological mother as much more than a person who Choose Life for me and gave me a better life then she could at the time. She made a very difficult decision to allow My Mom and Dad to raise me as their own, with no connections or ties to them. AMAZING! I love My Mom and Dad, I think of them as nothing else.
So to be honest today on Truthful Tuesday ~ I love that I was Given LIFE and that in a hard time in her life, my birthmother was supported by others enough to be Prolife!